Revenge Porn & Secret Filming

So a bit of a heavy one today, this is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for a while. I’ve been seeing lots of news stories around the internet about hidden cameras being found especially in bathrooms and it’s kind of freaking me out.  Here is just one of them

Woman finds hidden camera in hotel

Obviously these are set up to catch people in intimate situations, for whatever sick kick people may be getting out of it. I find it horrifying that somebody could invade someone’s personal space like that, and worse still you never know where those videos and images will end up. I’m totally against revenge porn, I think its disgusting how people think they have a right to distribute images sent to them in trust just because they are no longer with their ex partner. Thankfully that is now a crime so hopefully people will think twice.

But what about when you film someone intimately without their knowledge? Where do you guys stand on that? I know its something we read about on the news and think it will never happen to us. But the fact is it does happen, and in more personal situations and from people who are trusted as well as strangers.

A little (true) story for you – A girl lived in a house at university with a downstairs bathroom, with a window which was accessible through the garden. One day she caught one of her flatmates filming her under a crack in the window with a camera. She caught him, confronted him and he promised to delete the pictures. She left it at that. Until the guys girlfriend found them a year later. He’d kept the pictures and taken screenshots and close ups of them. The girl was horrified and threatened to go to the police.

This story is all kinds of wrong. One can you imagine the betrayed and how violated she must have felt that a trusted friend could have done that to her in the first place, and two that the pictures were kept.  It also makes you think what other things could have been done without her knowing? Would it have been the one time or would it have been the one time they had been caught. There is also the question of where the pictures have gone, would they have gone online?

What I find the most worrying about this story is the question of how far would this go? You’d obviously have to have some mental health issues to begin with to even consider doing something like that, but then what if it escalated into a more serious situation? Say physical sexual assault or rape?

I think that the law needs to crack down on incidents like this, and deal out harsher punishments. Revenge porn and secret filming should be classed as sexual assault and be punished as such. It’s scary to think that privacy can be violated like that, by people and companies we trust, and its scary to think that its happening more and more often.

I think people (both men and women) are scared of going to the police as they think they may not have enough evidence, they’re scared of judgement etc but they shouldn’t be. It’s not the victims fault its the person doing it.  More awareness needs to be raised about these kind of situations and more support given. These incidents appear to be getting more and more common and nobody deserves to have their privacy violated like that.

Let me know you’re thoughts on this, and let me know any experiences you may have had if you feel comfortable with sharing them. Lets try and raise some awareness!

7 thoughts on “Revenge Porn & Secret Filming

  1. I have been in a situation where a guy threatened to send intimate pictures of me to my family and post them on Facebook. I felt very vulnerable and helpless. It didn’t end up going any further but it was a frightening ordeal that went on a couple of weeks. I very much agree that harsher punishment should be dealt out for this sort of behaviour. X

    1. It’s vile isn’t it. I think revenge porn deserves a prison sentence at the least and they should have to pay compensation. It’s also frightening to think how far it could push a victim mentally, and it could lead them to do something tragic. It’s a hard thing for people to report to the police I think as they’re scared of what reaction they may get.

  2. I can honestly say I haven’t had any experience of this whatsoever but I can only imagine what trauma this could cause someone…. totally and utterly agree that harsher punishments need to be addressed to protect victims of this horrendous invasion of privacy. I can only imagine how far this could potentially push someone – awful to think of the repercussions. Great post Laura, a very sensitive subject and very hard to write about huni, go you for tackling this topic! X

    1. Its horrible isn’t it. Thankfully I’ve never experienced it but I’ve had a very good friend experience something similar which is what pushed me to write about it thanks for taking the time to read! 😘

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